Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love

Inheritance A Memoir of Genealogy Paternity and Love The acclaimed and beloved author of Hourglass now gives us a new memoir about identity paternity and family secrets a real time exploration of the staggering discovery she recently made about

  • Title: Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
  • Author: Dani Shapiro
  • ISBN: 1524732710
  • Page: 369
  • Format: Hardcover
  • The acclaimed and beloved author of Hourglass now gives us a new memoir about identity, paternity, and family secrets a real time exploration of the staggering discovery she recently made about her father, and her struggle to piece together the hidden story of her own life.What makes us who we are What combination of memory, history, biology, experience, and that ineffabl The acclaimed and beloved author of Hourglass now gives us a new memoir about identity, paternity, and family secrets a real time exploration of the staggering discovery she recently made about her father, and her struggle to piece together the hidden story of her own life.What makes us who we are What combination of memory, history, biology, experience, and that ineffable thing called the soul defines us In the spring of 2016, through a genealogy website to which she had whimsically submitted her DNA for analysis, Dani Shapiro received the stunning news that her father was not her biological father She woke up one morning and her entire history the life she had lived crumbled beneath her Inheritance is a book about secrets secrets within families, kept out of shame or self protectiveness secrets we keep from one another in the name of love It is the story of a woman s urgent quest to unlock the story of her own identity, a story that has been scrupulously hidden from her for than fifty years, years she had spent writing brilliantly, and compulsively, on themes of identity and family history It is a book about the extraordinary moment we live in a moment in which science and technology have outpaced not only medical ethics but also the capacities of the human heart to contend with the consequences of what we discover.Timely and unforgettable, Dani Shapiro s memoir is a gripping, gut wrenching exploration of genealogy, paternity, and love Get A Copy Kindle Store StoresAudibleBarnes NobleWalmart eBooksApple BooksGoogle PlayAbebooksBook DepositoryIndigoAlibrisBetter World 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having listened to Dani read her books before I made sure to again soak in our warm pool for hours fingers getting pruney while soaking in Dani At least when I cried 3 different times I was already wet Two scenes hit my emotions deeply One when Dani was talking with her 93 year old aunt.The other was a phone cal Audiobook read by Dani Shapiro I love her I love her I love Dani Shapiro I really could listen to Dani read the phone book Keeping with tradition having listened to Dani read her books before I made sure to again soak in our warm pool for hours fingers getting pruney while soaking in Dani At least when I cried 3 different times I was already wet Two scenes hit my emotions deeply One when Dani was talking with her 93 year old aunt.The other was a phone call with her son Jacob I was a wreck I m sooooooooo moved by Dani her storybook THIS STORY.I seriously want to hug this woman and tell her how much of a fan I am of her At times her husband reminds me of Paul I love hearing about great men This story OPENED MY EYES It shifted ways I think about being conceived by a donor Dani explores this topic through her own experience with freshness insights She literally STRETCHES your own thinking and points of views on ethnics morality truth secrets family and love.These questions stand out Who Am I Why Am I here How should I live SUCH an incredibly thought provoking book I ve read books about family secrets we all have.My own husband grew up with a big family secret held from him he learned the truth after we were married , so I have a sense of the different ways a person feels when they get surprise news which alters their entire perspective of the truth they believed It s shocking But besides all the details reactions Dani writes and speaks BEAUTIFUL She s real This memoir might be for specific type of readers Not everyone likes memoirs.I tend to be picky about them myself But this TOPIC alone might draw a wider group of people Great audiobook Great great great flag 52 likesLike see review View all 13 comments Elyse Walters Thanks JanB In my opinion we haven t heard many real stories on this topic I mean we KNOW of it But Dani shares her real personal experience Thanks JanB In my opinion we haven t heard many real stories on this topic I mean we KNOW of it But Dani shares her real personal experience Something about the way she told it elevated my own thoughts questions I told Paul I think he should do the DNA test I guess I could too for fun it s 100 but Paul has real reason to Hope you like it Jan Jan 27, 2019 03 23PM Carol It s really good to hear how much you liked this Elyse and also good to hear that it worked well on audio I don t know how I missed your review but a It s really good to hear how much you liked this Elyse and also good to hear that it worked well on audio I don t know how I missed your review but as always, you give us an idea of the book, and then share so much of yourself in the review Though I didn t cry while reading this, I can certainly understand the emotions this book would bring We all react to secrets told in different ways It gave me a whole different view of donor sperm Who would of thought of this as part of the consideration way back when Jan 29, 2019 09 04AM Nov 27, 2018 Michael rated it really liked it Shelves 2018 My full review can be found on BookBrowse.A compelling exploration of paternity, identity, and belonging, Inheritance centers on a shocking discovery about the author s ancestry In early 2016, after submitting her DNA for analysis through Ancestry on a whim, Dani Shapiro found out that she is not in fact biologically related to her deceased father, an Ashkenazi Jew The acclaimed memoirist has spent her career writing about family history and Jewish culture, and Inheritance recounts the tur My full review can be found on BookBrowse.A compelling exploration of paternity, identity, and belonging, Inheritance centers on a shocking discovery about the author s ancestry In early 2016, after submitting her DNA for analysis through Ancestry on a whim, Dani Shapiro found out that she is not in fact biologically related to her deceased father, an Ashkenazi Jew The acclaimed memoirist has spent her career writing about family history and Jewish culture, and Inheritance recounts the turmoil she experienced over the discovery as well as her quest to track down her biological father The memoir s a bit repetitive, but Shapiro explores the ethical and existential questions at the heart of her journey in great detail flag 42 likesLike see review View all 5 comments Jan 20, 2019 Julie Ehlers rated it it was amazing Shelves free library, memoir and autobiography But here I was An inconvenient truth that had indeed been born from his own body My very existence was due to the fact that he never dreamt he d have to deal with such a thing.As the book description and flap copy will tell you, Inheritance is about the time respected writer Dani Shapiro took a DNA test as a lark and, from its results, learned that her father was not actually her biological father This, of course, raised a number of questions 1 How could this be 2 What did her now l But here I was An inconvenient truth that had indeed been born from his own body My very existence was due to the fact that he never dreamt he d have to deal with such a thing.As the book description and flap copy will tell you, Inheritance is about the time respected writer Dani Shapiro took a DNA test as a lark and, from its results, learned that her father was not actually her biological father This, of course, raised a number of questions 1 How could this be 2 What did her now long dead parents know, and when did they know it 3 Who was her biological father Like most people, I have no experience with this kind of situation, but that was precisely what moved me about it In my rather large extended family, everyone looks like someone else, sounds like someone else, acts like someone else There are differences among us and we don t all get along perfectly, but everyone knows exactly where they came from, because it s obvious This book made me wonder What would it be like not to have that What would it be like to finally get an answer to why you never felt you had that And what would it be like, after 54 years on this earth, to finally get a glimpse of someone who could possibly give you that Honestly, I m getting choked up just thinking about it It helps that I very recently read Shapiro s previous memoir, Hourglass, which I unexpectedly both enjoyed and admired When this story began, I was immediately invested on Shapiro s behalf Like Hourglass, this book has an immediacy these events just happened And yet, it s a mark of Shapiro s thoughtfulness and skill as a writer that nothing feels tossed together She has thought about this, and she will make you think about it too What are the ramifications of learning something like this What does it mean for your relationships with your father, your mother, your own son and the entire rest of your family and family friends And what about your biological parent, should you find him and what about his family And speaking of that, what are the ethics of sperm donation No really, what are they Have you thought about this I thought I had, but this book made me realize how much I hadn t considered What s , as a writer, Shapiro really knows what she s doing, and this short book moves at a breakneck pace I was riveted I feel sorry for the book I ve picked up now, because Inheritance is going to cast a long shadow.I probably shouldn t mention this but I will Just this morning I saw a review of this book that indicated it wasn t very good, because paraphrasing finding out your dad isn t your biological dad isn t that big of a deal Not big enough to warrant an entire book, anyway So if you agree with that sentiment, no need for you to read this But if you realize that it is in fact a very big deal, Inheritance will help you look at it in the most devastating and hopeful way possible flag 37 likesLike see review View all 25 comments Julie Ehlers Megan wrote So I haven t read your review yet for fear of spoilers but I saw you gave it five stars As I was listening to the book today, she menti Megan wrote So I haven t read your review yet for fear of spoilers but I saw you gave it five stars As I was listening to the book today, she mentions doing nothing but reading Adrienne Rich for a period of Haha Never fear, my review has no spoilers I did like the Adrienne Rich bit, but I m just a fan of Dani Shapiro I really liked her previous memoir, Hourglass, as well updated Jan 30, 2019 06 19PM Megan Ha, I know it s than that, but what a funny coincidence I ll have to add that one to my never ending list Jan 31, 2019 06 20AM Jan 26, 2019 Carol added it Shelves connecticut author, e galley, genes dna, genealogy dna, memoir biography, non fiction My sincere thanks to Author Dani Shapiro, Edelwiess, and Random House Publishing for providing this e galley in exchange for my honest review Inheritance A Memoir of Geneaolgy, Paternity and Love was published January 15, 2019.Dani Shapiro s memoir first caught my eye as she is a Connecticut author, my home state I have had my DNA tested and am doing genealogy so the subject is forefront in my mind DNA it s all the news these days Advertisements, articles, television series it s no wonde My sincere thanks to Author Dani Shapiro, Edelwiess, and Random House Publishing for providing this e galley in exchange for my honest review Inheritance A Memoir of Geneaolgy, Paternity and Love was published January 15, 2019.Dani Shapiro s memoir first caught my eye as she is a Connecticut author, my home state I have had my DNA tested and am doing genealogy so the subject is forefront in my mind DNA it s all the news these days Advertisements, articles, television series it s no wonder many of us have ordered kits to find information regarding ethnicity, health information and our roots These tests can be fun, they can be informative, but the discoveries can also be risky When I had my own test done over a year ago at Ancestry.Com I considered those risks before doing the spit I knew some of my ancestors, certainly my parents, right Still, a bit of vague history in my background made me slightly hesitant to perform the test What if I was not who I thought I was Imagine, if I had found out that what I had believed my whole life was not true Perhaps those receiving unexpected results really isn t that high but it s these that we hear about and these that are turning lives upside down On a whim Author Dani Shapiro decides to join the ranks of DNA participants What should have been a look at her genetic make up and ancestry delivered stunning results Her father was not her father To make this clear, her father is not her biological father yet he is the man who raised her He has died several years ago Did he know Why had no one told her What will the ramifications of this news be What this means and how it processed by Dani, becomes the true question She is still the same woman but is she So many questions and conflicting feelings now plague her Dani Shapiro in her memoir shares this most private story with us, one that was kept hidden from her, her whole life It is a compelling story, one that reveals the pain and injustice of secrets kept, the exploration of identity, the idea of family She shares these with us grace, composure, insight and most of all, honesty flag 31 likesLike see review View all 18 comments Paula Kalin Intriguing review, Carol Quote the the surprise with her DNA results Jan 29, 2019 07 10PM Carol Paula wrote Intriguing review, Carol Quote the the surprise with her DNA results Yes, Paula Many are receiving surprises It s interesting but so Paula wrote Intriguing review, Carol Quote the the surprise with her DNA results Yes, Paula Many are receiving surprises It s interesting but sometimes sad to see what happens after hearing these results and how it changes lives Feb 01, 2019 11 51AM Dec 16, 2018 Rebecca rated it really liked it review of another edition Shelves penguin first to read, 2019 release, family memoirs Dani Shapiro was used to strangers comments about her blond hair and blue eyes How could it be that she was raised an Orthodox Jew people wondered It never occurred to her that there was any truth to these hurtful jokes On a whim, in her fifties, she joined her husband in sending off a DNA test kit It came back with alarming results she was only half Ashkenazi Jew, and she and her father s daughter from a previous marriage were unrelated A vague memory of her mother jesting about her onl Dani Shapiro was used to strangers comments about her blond hair and blue eyes How could it be that she was raised an Orthodox Jew people wondered It never occurred to her that there was any truth to these hurtful jokes On a whim, in her fifties, she joined her husband in sending off a DNA test kit It came back with alarming results she was only half Ashkenazi Jew, and she and her father s daughter from a previous marriage were unrelated A vague memory of her mother jesting about her only daughter s unromantic conception in Philadelphia quickly led Shapiro to discover that she d been a test tube baby created at Edmond Farris s dodgy institute in the early 1960s, when donor sperm was routinely mixed with the father s sluggish sperm possibly without the would be parents explicit consent.Within 36 hours of starting research into her origins, thanks to online genetic databases, Shapiro had found her biological father, whom she calls Dr Ben Walden, and even e mailed him with her findings She was amazed to finally find someone who looked like her, their similarities even extending to their gestures and habits Walden had donated sperm over a period of time as a medical student, and at first seemed wary of interacting with Shapiro, no doubt worried she d be just the first of a string of half siblings wanting his recognition But in the year that followed, their families carefully built up a real relationship.The whole experience was memoirist s gold, undoubtedly, but Shapiro does than just give a blow by blow she also weaves in childhood memories, the history of artificial insemination, flashbacks to the parents who raised her both long dead, her father decades earlier in a car crash , and a moving account of her emotional state as she pondered her identity and what her sense of family would be in the future It s uncanny, she notes, that family secrets played such a pivotal role in her novels, long before she ever knew of the one at the heart of her history Shapiro s prose reminds me of Ann Patchett s I ll be reading the rest of her memoirs for sure, starting with Slow Motion Releases on January 15th Favorite lines I tell my students, who are concerned with the question of betrayal, that when it comes to memoir, there is no such thing as absolute truth only the truth that is singularly their own I kept reminding myself that everything I had built my family, my personhood was unaltered My new knowledge changed both everything and nothing My life was like one of those large and complicated jigsaw puzzles that, once finished, displayed a completely different image on the reverse side A rabbi friend tells her You can say, This is impossible, terrible Or you can say, This is beautiful, wonderful flag 26 likesLike see review View all 4 comments Oct 08, 2018 Marika rated it it was amazing Shelves memoir Not many memoirs make me sit up and say woah Dani Shapiro s book Inheritance A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love is THAT book Dani, like many of us, submitted a sample of DNA for testing and for fun, but unlike many of us, she received shocking news that her father wasn t her biological father Her whole life Dani was always told that she didn t look Jewish, even from family members So to get the news that her father wasn t her biological father made sensein a way What mystery w Not many memoirs make me sit up and say woah Dani Shapiro s book Inheritance A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love is THAT book Dani, like many of us, submitted a sample of DNA for testing and for fun, but unlike many of us, she received shocking news that her father wasn t her biological father Her whole life Dani was always told that she didn t look Jewish, even from family members So to get the news that her father wasn t her biological father made sensein a way What mystery was her mother and father hiding from her and why Dani also grew up feeling like she never belonged Maybe on a cellular level her body knew This memoir will keep you guessing until the end Which is unique for a memoir It s a suspenseful memoir.I read an advance copy and was not compensated flag 15 likesLike see review Jan 18, 2019 Jana rated it liked it Shelves audible, non fiction Wow I don t usually read a book this fast I listened to this one on audible, excellently narrated by the author.I love her writing This is only the second book I ve read by her, but her writing is flawless She makes it seem so easy, and I mean this as high praise I don t think it s a spoiler to say that the book is about her unexpected DNA results It is in the description and the title I really tried to put myself in her shoes I know I would be shocked to find out my father was not actua Wow I don t usually read a book this fast I listened to this one on audible, excellently narrated by the author.I love her writing This is only the second book I ve read by her, but her writing is flawless She makes it seem so easy, and I mean this as high praise I don t think it s a spoiler to say that the book is about her unexpected DNA results It is in the description and the title I really tried to put myself in her shoes I know I would be shocked to find out my father was not actually my genetic father But I don t think I would be as undone by it as she was I don t want to sound unsympathetic But she has memories of her father who raised her And loved her She will always have that bond She has a wonderful husband and son She is successful I just can t understand the extreme reaction she had Though I do not doubt that she had it So that is my conundrum with the book 5 s Writing2 s I just can t relate I might have a clue why My husband spent most of 2018 fighting a horrible cancer My previous problems now pale in comparison, yet I still have so much to be thankful for compared to many This may not be fair to the book, but it s my honest reaction flag 12 likesLike see review View 2 comments Oct 19, 2018 Sarah rated it it was amazing I read this book in two sittings in fact, it is now 2 38 AM I ve just put down the book to opine to strangers on that, despite a complaint from a disgruntled reader that the book is self indulgent I, too, was initially distrusting trust me when I say that it gets better If it speaks to you the way it has spoken to me, you ll be up in the early hours, keen to find out what will happen next on Shapiro s journey to discover her biological father, and also to understand how, exactly, a I read this book in two sittings in fact, it is now 2 38 AM I ve just put down the book to opine to strangers on that, despite a complaint from a disgruntled reader that the book is self indulgent I, too, was initially distrusting trust me when I say that it gets better If it speaks to you the way it has spoken to me, you ll be up in the early hours, keen to find out what will happen next on Shapiro s journey to discover her biological father, and also to understand how, exactly, a person s identity is bound up in relationships with people Her revelations you ll have to live with this book to know them pierced me to the core When this book comes out in January, you can bet your bottom dollar that I a proud bookseller at my local indie will be selling as many copies of INHERITANCE as I possibly can It s worth the sleepless night flag 8 likesLike see review Jan 19, 2019 Jaclyn Crupi rated it really liked it I wasn t my father s daughter The thought knifed through me, sharper each time I touched it Shapiro s latest memoir, her fifth, is as penetrating and beautiful as we ve come to expect from this masterful writer Here, after taking a DNA test on a whim, she discovers her father is not her biological father and is forced to examine her identity anew Who am I Why am I here How will I live flag 7 likesLike see review Jan 05, 2019 Shelly rated it it was amazing Shelves 5 star, 2019 release This is an excellent memoir about a woman who decides to do an Ancestry DNA test She did it on a whim, not expecting to find out her father is not her biological father It s a fascinating topic to read about More than once I ve clicked on links of articles in Washington Post or elsewhere that talk about people finding out family secrets as a result of those DNA tests This memoir is special, though It has the added complexity of faith and that aspect of identity, which is particularly im This is an excellent memoir about a woman who decides to do an Ancestry DNA test She did it on a whim, not expecting to find out her father is not her biological father It s a fascinating topic to read about More than once I ve clicked on links of articles in Washington Post or elsewhere that talk about people finding out family secrets as a result of those DNA tests This memoir is special, though It has the added complexity of faith and that aspect of identity, which is particularly important considering Dani Shapiro s upbringing as an Orthodox Jew It s also written by talented writer and I ll definitely be looking into her novels and of her memoirs This book is out January 15th I was lucky enough to receive an ARC from someone given it who had other reading interests Freebies do not influence my reviews flag 7 likesLike see review Dec 10, 2018 Chantal rated it it was amazing memoir, which is in four parts, is Dani Shapiro s most intimate memoir to date Shapiro who has always considered herself her father s daughter is devastated to learn that he is not her biological father.Despite clues along the way, nothing clicks until she takes a DNA test She expected to find that she is 100% Jewish but the test reveals something else altogether She is biologically related to her mother but not to her father Gradually, detai memoir, which is in four parts, is Dani Shapiro s most intimate memoir to date Shapiro who has always considered herself her father s daughter is devastated to learn that he is not her biological father.Despite clues along the way, nothing clicks until she takes a DNA test She expected to find that she is 100% Jewish but the test reveals something else altogether She is biologically related to her mother but not to her father Gradually, details come to light Before Shapiro was born, her parents had visited an infertility clinic known to mix sperm Though she hopes her parents had not concealed anything from her, it becomes obvious they knew she was donor conceived Shapiro claims she had always known something was amiss For Shapiro, who was devoted to her father, but always felt at odds with her family, the DNA results answer many troubling questions The DNA results opens old wounds, leaving Shaprio completely unmoored She describes how lost she feels in poetic language I am the black box, discovered years many years after the crash The pilots, the crew, the passengers have long been committed to the sea Nothing is left of them Fathoms deep, I have spent my life transmitting the faintest signalI am also the diver who has discovered the black boxI had been looking for it all my life without knowing it existed Eventually, she has a meeting with her biological father whom she strongly resembles They are brought together through the magic of social media.Shapiro digs deeper, investigating the way cryobanks currently operate She interviews dozens of donor conceived individual who feel just as exiled and lost as she does.As she forges deeper relationships with her biological family, however, Shapiro begins to see everything in a new light as a blessing Shapiro, who was raised as an orthodox Jew, is peppered with Jewish phrases and expressions Her identity is still firmly Jewish, even if she is half Christian.She puts all of her previous writings in perspective, realizing nearly all of her works were about family secrets.Though she gives her social father kol hakavod all the honor , she comes to cherish her biological one as well.Shapiro s story is so important in this age when DNA kits are becoming and recreational As and individuals have genetic testing done, connections will be made The likelihood of family secrets becoming accidently unearthed as Shapiro s had will increase over time flag 7 likesLike see review Dec 19, 2018 Sue Dix rated it it was amazing review of another edition Thank you firsttoread and Penguin Books for this ARC I give this book 5 out of 5 stars I have only read one other book by this author, and I wondered at the time why I just couldn t connect with her story Perhaps this book is the explanation Haunting her for her entire life, a sense of otherness, unconnectedness, must have come through her writing Filled with painful honesty, Inheritance is a compelling memoir of personal discovery I strongly recommend this book It is an intense exper Thank you firsttoread and Penguin Books for this ARC I give this book 5 out of 5 stars I have only read one other book by this author, and I wondered at the time why I just couldn t connect with her story Perhaps this book is the explanation Haunting her for her entire life, a sense of otherness, unconnectedness, must have come through her writing Filled with painful honesty, Inheritance is a compelling memoir of personal discovery I strongly recommend this book It is an intense experience flag 7 likesLike see review Jan 15, 2019 Edith rated it it was ok Shelves autobiography, memoir 2 1 2 stars Dani Shapiro unexpectedly learns, at the age of 54, as a result of a DNA test, that the man she knew as her father was not biologically related to her She and her husband very quickly figure out not a spoiler that her mother became pregnant as a result of donor sperm The memoir continues to follow her search into the circumstances of her birth.While I empathize with the tremendous emotional upheaval this discovery caused the author a not entirely different situation from one in 2 1 2 stars Dani Shapiro unexpectedly learns, at the age of 54, as a result of a DNA test, that the man she knew as her father was not biologically related to her She and her husband very quickly figure out not a spoiler that her mother became pregnant as a result of donor sperm The memoir continues to follow her search into the circumstances of her birth.While I empathize with the tremendous emotional upheaval this discovery caused the author a not entirely different situation from one in my own family I found it very hard to countenance her attitudes about it, especially those relating to her biological father and his family I know it sounds ridiculous for a memoir to be described as self centered, but I found this one almost unbearably so An examination of what makes someone who they are is one thing Ms Shapiro s search rarely seems to depart from a simple, panicked repetition of the question Considering the degree of importance she ascribes to her Jewish heritage, for example, it takes her quite a long time to be reminded that she s still Jewish her biological father might not have been Jewish, but her mother was She speaks for quite a while as if she s lost all rights to Jewish culture and religion.However, those of us who were adopted or are the children of adoptees, as Ms Shapiro rightly points out, at least know what we don t know Ms Shapiro, looking back, realized how many times she had been asked for medical information and replied, confidently reporting the health history of her father s family, never knowing that it didn t apply to her, or to her very ill little boy This was the point at which I found her the most sympathetic The situation in which Ms Shapiro found herself is becoming and common as people have their DNA tested Out of these experiences, perhaps a better book on the subject will appear flag 6 likesLike see review Elyse Walters I respect your thoughts Thank you It s still weighing on my mind But I totally understand your reaction Different from me but I sure hear you to I respect your thoughts Thank you It s still weighing on my mind But I totally understand your reaction Different from me but I sure hear you too Jan 28, 2019 01 18PM Sep 19, 2018 Margo Littell rated it it was amazing Inheritance is as lyrical and deeply moving as Shapiro s other memoirs, but it also brings a new urgency to her well honed personal storytelling From the moment Shapiro accidentally discovers the secret at the heart of her very existence, her quest for answers unfolds starkly and sometimes heartbreakingly, and she brings her readers along with characteristic perceptiveness and generosity of spirit There is stark beauty in hewing this close to the bone, and Inheritance is both luminous and cour Inheritance is as lyrical and deeply moving as Shapiro s other memoirs, but it also brings a new urgency to her well honed personal storytelling From the moment Shapiro accidentally discovers the secret at the heart of her very existence, her quest for answers unfolds starkly and sometimes heartbreakingly, and she brings her readers along with characteristic perceptiveness and generosity of spirit There is stark beauty in hewing this close to the bone, and Inheritance is both luminous and courageous For readers familiar with Shapiro s other works, the new truths cast an achingly melancholic clarity over the others rendering them somehow even true and lovely than before flag 6 likesLike see review Jan 31, 2019 Carly Friedman rated it it was amazing Shelves audiobooks, biographies I finished this excellent audiobook in one day I could not stop listening There were several personal reasons why I identified with this memoir of Shapiro s discovery that the father who raised her was not her biological father and path that led to both her biological father and self acceptance I too have no idea who my biological father is I married into a Jewish family so I understand the sense of not fully belonging Shapiro s writing here was beautiful and engaging This is a book about I finished this excellent audiobook in one day I could not stop listening There were several personal reasons why I identified with this memoir of Shapiro s discovery that the father who raised her was not her biological father and path that led to both her biological father and self acceptance I too have no idea who my biological father is I married into a Jewish family so I understand the sense of not fully belonging Shapiro s writing here was beautiful and engaging This is a book about identity, family, secrets, the ties that bring us together and those that keep us together It is about acceptance of imperfect parents and ourselves Highly recommended flag 5 likesLike see review Jenna The best books are often the ones we identify with the most Glad this one was so good for you Jan 31, 2019 08 03PM Jan 08, 2019 Lori rated it liked it Dani Shapiro took a DNA test The man she believed to be her biological father was not She discovered her parents difficult conceiving a child led them to a clinic where her mother was artificially inseminated not with her father s sperm but with that of a young doctor A first cousin match led to the man s identity Correspondence between Shapiro and her biological father took place The eventually met While I enjoyed the DNA story, the publication of the memoir revealing the man s identity a Dani Shapiro took a DNA test The man she believed to be her biological father was not She discovered her parents difficult conceiving a child led them to a clinic where her mother was artificially inseminated not with her father s sperm but with that of a young doctor A first cousin match led to the man s identity Correspondence between Shapiro and her biological father took place The eventually met While I enjoyed the DNA story, the publication of the memoir revealing the man s identity appears to be a violation of genetic genealogy ethics, particularly when she continually voiced the man s concern for privacy I received an advance electronic copy of the book from the publisher through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review I hope the final version includes her biological father s consent to be named flag 5 likesLike see review View all 7 comments Becca She did not use his real name Jan 27, 2019 07 20AM Lori Becca wrote She did not use his real name Thanks I believe I acknowledged above the ARC which I no longer have in my possession had a lot of pla Becca wrote She did not use his real name Thanks I believe I acknowledged above the ARC which I no longer have in my possession had a lot of placeholders so I did not see a disclaimer Jan 28, 2019 07 42AM Dec 28, 2018 Suzze Tiernan rated it it was amazing On a day in which my best friend s adopted son found his half brother through 23andMe, I happened across the review copy of this book I couldn t put it down Such an interesting story, and her journey was memorable 5 stars Thanks to Knopf and Edelweiss flag 5 likesLike see review Elyse Walters Wow My husband learned his father wasn t his biological father either a couple of months after we got married 40 years ago His dad who my husba Wow My husband learned his father wasn t his biological father either a couple of months after we got married 40 years ago His dad who my husband knew as his only dad died when he was 7 years old He died believing his was the father The read biological father lives only miles from us with a family adult kids ButMy husband won t meet him His mom cheated lies hide everything It was crazy Jan 28, 2019 01 16PM Jan 28, 2019 Lesa rated it really liked it Shelves family relationships, memoir, nonfiction, writers Think carefully before you spit into that test tube for Ancestry or any of the other genealogy sites Dani Shapiro took it all lightly, but she was traumatized by the results She writes of it inInheritance A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love I m not spoiling the story by writing about it I ve seen Shapiro on television talking about her book and the results of her DNA analysis Dani s husband, Michael, said he was going to take one of those DNA analysis tests She agreed, and mont Think carefully before you spit into that test tube for Ancestry or any of the other genealogy sites Dani Shapiro took it all lightly, but she was traumatized by the results She writes of it inInheritance A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love I m not spoiling the story by writing about it I ve seen Shapiro on television talking about her book and the results of her DNA analysis Dani s husband, Michael, said he was going to take one of those DNA analysis tests She agreed, and months later, they finally got around to spitting in the tube Then, she forgot about it until the results came back Dani s father wasn t her father Her half sister wasn t related to her at all All the Orthodox Jewish relatives she could name for five generations back were not her relatives Dani Shapiro felt as if she had lost her identity.Dani Shapiro is a writer, and her husband is a journalist It didn t take him long to find answers From one sentence her mother once said, and a first cousin who showed up on Ancestry, Michael figured out the story, connecting Dani s story with her biological father The research and search are worth reading for yourself What I can mention is Dani Shapiro s feelings of loss of identity She had never been close to her mother, and identified with her father She was proud of all his family and his heritage Now, all of that was gone Although, her ninety three year old aunt, when told of the discovery, was a strong woman who grabbed Dani and said, I m not giving you up But, her aunt Shirley never knew the family secret Shapiro says, All my life I had known there was a secret What I hadn t known the secret was me Dani Shapiro struggles with the truth, the ethics, and has a difficult time accepting the actions of her parents But, rabbis, mentors, friends listen patiently as she struggles with the loss of her identity and her family history Who is she now that she no longer is her father s daughter Who is she when she learns that when she s fifty four I sometimes felt as if Shapiro was making too much of a fuss, and was acting too traumatized Who am I to know I m not the one who found out I was not related to my father.There are answers in Inheritance There might not be answers for everyone who sends in their spit as a lark only to learn they re not the person they thought they were It s a fascinating book with all kinds of questions, and few answers flag 4 likesLike see review Jan 19, 2019 Chris rated it liked it Shelves 2019 reads, memoirs, own It is a coincidence that I read this book about discovering the author s father wasn t her biological father as an AncestryDNA kit sits in my house Given as a gift, I will probably be the one who ends up using it, but I doubt there will be any surprises I have my father s small Slavik eyes and there is no question I am related to everyone in my family I ve read several of Shapiro s memoirs, she is one of my favorite contemporary writers, and this may be her most personal book And yet, it is It is a coincidence that I read this book about discovering the author s father wasn t her biological father as an AncestryDNA kit sits in my house Given as a gift, I will probably be the one who ends up using it, but I doubt there will be any surprises I have my father s small Slavik eyes and there is no question I am related to everyone in my family I ve read several of Shapiro s memoirs, she is one of my favorite contemporary writers, and this may be her most personal book And yet, it is my least favorite I had a hard time grasping her reaction to this news she admits she has spent her life feeling like she doesn t fit in, doesn t look Jewish People have even told her she s not Jewish So this news, that her real father was a medical student, one would think, would have come as relief, her questions were answered But instead it brought questions, doubt, and no answers I tried really hard to put myself in Shapiro s shoes and kept wondering what I would feel like if this happened to me I had a hard time having her same reaction both of her parents never knew the truth, which to me would bring the most relief her family is safe, her family is well Devotion chronicles the year in Shapiro s life when her son had a severe illness and almost died And she notes that in these pages, that was a situation you deal with it This was different, this was her whole life, being And for me, disappointingA One thing that struck me was how quickly, through a few Google, Facebook, and YouTube searches, and with the help if a friend who specializes in geneology, Shapiro was able to, within a few hours, figure out where she was conceived, who it was, and see her biological father on YouTube We live in a different world flag 4 likesLike see review Carol It s interesting how two of my GR friends posted reviews of this book just as I had finished it I am careful not to read reviews when I know I will b It s interesting how two of my GR friends posted reviews of this book just as I had finished it I am careful not to read reviews when I know I will be writing some thoughts of my own I have not read anything else by Dani Shapiro but from what I m hearing perhaps I should try another I had many of the same thoughts as you Chris concerning her reaction to this news I don t know how I would feel under the same circumstances but have been reading so much about this topic as I explore my own ancestors and try to find an unknown parent for a person close to me I wish my experience in finding the past were as easy as Dani s Good to read your thoughts Hope your DNA experience is interesting Jan 26, 2019 10 53AM Chris I, too, steer clear of reviews of any kind until I finish a book, I don t want be swayed one way or another Good luck in your own DNA quest, Carol I I, too, steer clear of reviews of any kind until I finish a book, I don t want be swayed one way or another Good luck in your own DNA quest, Carol I look forward to reading your review Jan 27, 2019 05 14AM Jan 18, 2019 Betsy rated it it was amazing I enjoy Dani Shapiro s style of writing, direct, observant, emotional as she questions her life and origins As a contemporary if hers I know what it s like to be a small child in the 1960s when everything from morals to miniskirts were new and wild Thus is her best book yet There is no way I could stop reading it once I began on the day it was released Bravo Dani The true tale was told with suspense and tenderness who are we A collection of genes or a total of our experiences The truth I enjoy Dani Shapiro s style of writing, direct, observant, emotional as she questions her life and origins As a contemporary if hers I know what it s like to be a small child in the 1960s when everything from morals to miniskirts were new and wild Thus is her best book yet There is no way I could stop reading it once I began on the day it was released Bravo Dani The true tale was told with suspense and tenderness who are we A collection of genes or a total of our experiences The truth lies somewhere in between flag 4 likesLike see review Jan 18, 2019 Susan rated it it was amazing This was so good that I couldn t put it down and finished it in an afternoon It was mesmerizing, sad and happy all at the same time But as I write that, it doesn t really do justice to all the emotions the author experiences and that the reader experiences right along with her For me, it was a nail biting page turner And a wonderfully complex story flag 4 likesLike see review Dec 24, 2018 Rachel Smalter Hall rated it it was amazing Shelves memoirs and bios, non fiction When I first heard about Inheritance, I have to admit I wrinkled my nose a little hadn t I already listened to enough memoirs about FAMILY SECRETS and COMPLICATED RELATIONSHIPS I mean, sure, it s one of my favorite sub genres, but there is such a thing as too much of a good thing Inheritance, as it turns out, is a perfect little jewel of a memoir Well into her adult life, Dani Shapiro took a DNA test on a whim only to discover that her beloved Orthodox Jewish father was not, in fact, her biol When I first heard about Inheritance, I have to admit I wrinkled my nose a little hadn t I already listened to enough memoirs about FAMILY SECRETS and COMPLICATED RELATIONSHIPS I mean, sure, it s one of my favorite sub genres, but there is such a thing as too much of a good thing Inheritance, as it turns out, is a perfect little jewel of a memoir Well into her adult life, Dani Shapiro took a DNA test on a whim only to discover that her beloved Orthodox Jewish father was not, in fact, her biological father Naturally, inner turmoil ensues as she sets out to uncover the truth about her past I don t know how she does it, but Shapiro s memoir is somehow an impossible combination of beautiful words, soul searching insight, and fast paced thrills And her narration is amazing too what I can think of only one plausible explanation she must be some kind of word sorcerer flag 4 likesLike see review View 2 comments Dec 20, 2018 Kristi Richardson rated it it was amazing Shelves health, penguin s first reads, non fiction, science How would you feel if through a DNA test you found that your father wasn t your father This is the premise of Dani Shapiro s book and how she coped and survived this nightmare I thoroughly enjoyed this well written book given to me by the Penguin s First Reads program I can only imagine how I would feel if the same thing happened to me I learned about invitro fertilization and the danger of using a questionable ethics clinic I highly recommend this book to anyone that is interested in How would you feel if through a DNA test you found that your father wasn t your father This is the premise of Dani Shapiro s book and how she coped and survived this nightmare I thoroughly enjoyed this well written book given to me by the Penguin s First Reads program I can only imagine how I would feel if the same thing happened to me I learned about invitro fertilization and the danger of using a questionable ethics clinic I highly recommend this book to anyone that is interested in science and healthcare in this modern age This was a moving story handled with wit and candor flag 4 likesLike see review Nov 21, 2018 PinkAmy loves books, cats and naps rated it it was ok Thanks to First to Read for providing me a complimentary copy of INHERITANCE A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity and Love in exchange for my honest review INHERITANCE A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity and Love is the story of a middle aged woman, writer Dani Shapiro, who learns her father is not her biological father and her journey to seeing how she fits into her life.I never connected to Shapiro or her story, although I ve read and enjoyed her books previously If INHERITANCE were fiction, Thanks to First to Read for providing me a complimentary copy of INHERITANCE A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity and Love in exchange for my honest review INHERITANCE A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity and Love is the story of a middle aged woman, writer Dani Shapiro, who learns her father is not her biological father and her journey to seeing how she fits into her life.I never connected to Shapiro or her story, although I ve read and enjoyed her books previously If INHERITANCE were fiction, chances are Shapiro would have written an entirely different plot, with plot and less introspection Her word building is gorgeous, but I didn t enjoy the book one bit I found myself skimming, not interested in her thoughts and feelings, which isn t what I wanted out of the story I wanted to feel her heartbreak, confusion and pain, but did not INHERITANCE is probably a case of it s not you, it s me, so read other reviews before deciding flag 4 likesLike see review Sep 07, 2018 Cora rated it it was amazing Shelves non fiction What an arresting book There s something about Dani Shapiro s writing that is like a spiderweb detailed and delicate and elegant, but with surprising tensile strength behind it, and this story was incredibly moving her discovery, and all its resulting impacts on her sense of who she is her struggle to reconcile her memories of her parents with what she now knows and her approaching of her biological father and his family with apprehension and tenacity I found myself with a lump in my throa What an arresting book There s something about Dani Shapiro s writing that is like a spiderweb detailed and delicate and elegant, but with surprising tensile strength behind it, and this story was incredibly moving her discovery, and all its resulting impacts on her sense of who she is her struggle to reconcile her memories of her parents with what she now knows and her approaching of her biological father and his family with apprehension and tenacity I found myself with a lump in my throat many times, and actual tears during a few passages, especially the part where she visits her aunt, who seems like a remarkable woman I will be recommending this one for years to come flag 4 likesLike see review Dec 11, 2018 Suzanne rated it really liked it Shelves memoir, first reads Engaging and often riveting account of a middle aged woman s surprise at learning she is not the biological daughter of the father she revered She learns her mother had visited a clinic for infertility and persuades herself, at least initially, that her Jewish Orthodox father could not have known The truth as best she can determine is fascinating and the author does a great job of sharing her tale with us I received my copy from Penguin s First to Read Program flag 4 likesLike see review Nov 27, 2018 Janilyn Kocher rated it it was amazing Inheritance, the latest memoir by Shapiro, is quite poignant I have read all of her memoirs, but this one was very moving In her mid 50s, due to a DNA test, she discovers her beloved father is not her biological father As Dani delved deeper into the mystery she faced many questions and apprehensive feelings Finding her biological father took only a short time and through the Internet she connected with him and his family It s a roller coaster ride of emotions, but ultimately Shapiro makes p Inheritance, the latest memoir by Shapiro, is quite poignant I have read all of her memoirs, but this one was very moving In her mid 50s, due to a DNA test, she discovers her beloved father is not her biological father As Dani delved deeper into the mystery she faced many questions and apprehensive feelings Finding her biological father took only a short time and through the Internet she connected with him and his family It s a roller coaster ride of emotions, but ultimately Shapiro makes peace with it all.Thanks to Penguin First Read for the advance copy flag 4 likesLike see review Nov 14, 2018 J rated it it was amazing This book was so moving I loved Inheritance Upon learning something entirely new about herself and the journey to find answers, Dani Shapiro s new book had me from the first page It s beautiful and heartwrenching, a page turner that I did not want to end I was so honored to win a giveaway for an advanced copy of this book Dani Shapiro s writing is so elegant and thoughtful you feel as if you are on the journey with her A simple DNA test, life changing implications do yourself a fa This book was so moving I loved Inheritance Upon learning something entirely new about herself and the journey to find answers, Dani Shapiro s new book had me from the first page It s beautiful and heartwrenching, a page turner that I did not want to end I was so honored to win a giveaway for an advanced copy of this book Dani Shapiro s writing is so elegant and thoughtful you feel as if you are on the journey with her A simple DNA test, life changing implications do yourself a favor and read Inheritance Highly recommend flag 4 likesLike see review Nov 29, 2018 Sally Stieglitz rated it it was amazing Beautifully written and poignant memoir in which self examination is like a kaleidoscope, shifting at every turn The questions, Who am I, Why am I who I am, resonate for all readers and especially for memoirist Dani Shapiro whose foundation, her family and her identity, have informed and reformed her writings This compelling story is almost a Sherlockian mystery I hope to read of Shapiro s journey if she chooses to share it with readers flag 4 likesLike see review Jan 19, 2019 Lou rated it it was amazing I shall never get you put together entirely, Pieced, glued, and properly jointed Sylvia Plath, The Colossus If you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself George Orwell, 1984These great relevant quotes open up and welcome this work.Curiosity in origin opens up a pandoras box of surprises in this writing.That box came with the labelANCESTRY THE DNA TEST THAT TELLS A MORE COMPLETE STORY OF YOU.What followed with results was a deciphering of her photos of her father, one cons I shall never get you put together entirely, Pieced, glued, and properly jointed Sylvia Plath, The Colossus If you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself George Orwell, 1984These great relevant quotes open up and welcome this work.Curiosity in origin opens up a pandoras box of surprises in this writing.That box came with the labelANCESTRY THE DNA TEST THAT TELLS A MORE COMPLETE STORY OF YOU.What followed with results was a deciphering of her photos of her father, one conscious of their own legacy and recording of it.And questions and deep insights followed If Susie was not my half sister no kind of sister it could mean only one of two things either my father was not her father or my father was not my father These ancestors are the foundation upon which I have built my life I have dreamt of them, wrestled with them, longed for them I have tried to understand them In my writing, they have been my territory my obsession, you might even say They are the tangled roots thick, rich, and dark that bind me to the turning earth I woke up one morning and life was as I had always known it to be There were certain things I thought I could count on I looked at my hand, for example, and I knew it was my hand My foot was my foot My face, my face My history, my history After all, it s impossible to know the future, but we can be reasonably sure about the past By the time I went to bed that night, my entire history the life I had lived had crumbled beneath me, like the buried ruins of a long forgotten city All my life I had known there was a secret What I hadn t known the secret was me And so onward she wrestles with the new facts, with parents dead and buried, a dilemma, and only left a few to connect with this new discovery of hers, including the biological father and to try and makes sense of it out all and deciphering her past and what was and could of been and anticipation of a possible reckoning, and her heart at battle with itself with finding ultimately the fundamental answers behind to two questions, who are you what are you A Meditation on identity, truths, family lineage and finding ones self, with a revelation of an emotional journey, rewriting and unearthing histories.A great injustice researched here, that of ones self, her own identity, her birth parents identity.She will recall histories with a new keen assuming enquiring eye, unearth the past before the reader and widen ones scope of understanding of ancestry, parents, emotions and behaviours.Writing here like that of Joan Didion, Anne Dillard, Joyce Carol Oates, and Susan Sontag to name a few.Great writing, the cadence has you reading on with empathy and great choices in words deciphering chaos to a particular order on the page in the sentence with a word before a period.Review with excerpts flag 3 likesLike see review previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 next new topicDiscuss This Book topics posts views last activity January Book Review 1 3 Jan 31, 2019 06 36PM More topics Share Recommend It Stats Recent Status Updates Readers Also Enjoyed

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    1. Audiobook read by Dani Shapiro I love her I love her I love Dani Shapiro I really could listen to Dani read the phone book Keeping with tradition having listened to Dani read her books before I made sure to again soak in our warm pool for hours fingers getting pruney while soaking in Dani At least when I cried 3 different times I was already wet Two scenes hit my emotions deeply One when Dani was talking with her 93 year old aunt.The other was a phone cal Audiobook read by Dani Shapiro I love he [...]

    2. My full review can be found on BookBrowse.A compelling exploration of paternity, identity, and belonging, Inheritance centers on a shocking discovery about the author s ancestry In early 2016, after submitting her DNA for analysis through Ancestry on a whim, Dani Shapiro found out that she is not in fact biologically related to her deceased father, an Ashkenazi Jew The acclaimed memoirist has spent her career writing about family history and Jewish culture, and Inheritance recounts [...]

    3. But here I was An inconvenient truth that had indeed been born from his own body My very existence was due to the fact that he never dreamt he d have to deal with such a thing.As the book description and flap copy will tell you, Inheritance is about the time respected writer Dani Shapiro took a DNA test as a lark and, from its results, learned that her father was not actually her biological father This, of course, raised a number of questions 1 How could this be 2 What did her now [...]

    4. My sincere thanks to Author Dani Shapiro, Edelwiess, and Random House Publishing for providing this e galley in exchange for my honest review Inheritance A Memoir of Geneaolgy, Paternity and Love was published January 15, 2019.Dani Shapiro s memoir first caught my eye as she is a Connecticut author, my home state I have had my DNA tested and am doing genealogy so the subject is forefront in my mind DNA it s all the news these days Advertisements, articles, television series it s no wonde My sinc [...]

    5. Dani Shapiro was used to strangers comments about her blond hair and blue eyes How could it be that she was raised an Orthodox Jew people wondered It never occurred to her that there was any truth to these hurtful jokes On a whim, in her fifties, she joined her husband in sending off a DNA test kit It came back with alarming results she was only half Ashkenazi Jew, and she and her father s daughter from a previous marriage were unrelated A vague memory of her mother jesting about her onl Dani Sh [...]

    6. Not many memoirs make me sit up and say woah Dani Shapiro s book Inheritance A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love is THAT book Dani, like many of us, submitted a sample of DNA for testing and for fun, but unlike many of us, she received shocking news that her father wasn t her biological father Her whole life Dani was always told that she didn t look Jewish, even from family members So to get the news that her father wasn t her biological father made sensein a way What mystery w Not many m [...]

    7. Wow I don t usually read a book this fast I listened to this one on audible, excellently narrated by the author.I love her writing This is only the second book I ve read by her, but her writing is flawless She makes it seem so easy, and I mean this as high praise I don t think it s a spoiler to say that the book is about her unexpected DNA results It is in the description and the title I really tried to put myself in her shoes I know I would be shocked to find out my father was not actua Wow I d [...]

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