The Hurried Child: Growing Up Too Too Fast Too Soon

The Hurried Child Growing Up Too Too Fast Too Soon Often with the very best intentions Americans expose their children to overwhelming pressures pressures that can lead to low self esteem to teenage pregnancy and even to teenage suicide By blurrin

  • Title: The Hurried Child: Growing Up Too Too Fast Too Soon
  • Author: David Elkind
  • ISBN: 9780201073973
  • Page: 233
  • Format: Paperback
  • Often with the very best intentions, Americans expose their children to overwhelming pressures, pressures that can lead to low self esteem, to teenage pregnancy, and even to teenage suicide By blurring the boundaries of what is age appropriate, by expecting or imposing too much too soon, we force our kids to grow up too fast, to mimic adult sophistication while secretly yOften with the very best intentions, Americans expose their children to overwhelming pressures, pressures that can lead to low self esteem, to teenage pregnancy, and even to teenage suicide By blurring the boundaries of what is age appropriate, by expecting or imposing too much too soon, we force our kids to grow up too fast, to mimic adult sophistication while secretly yearning for innocence.With the first edition of The Hurried Child, David Elkind emerges as the voice of reason, calling our attention to the crippling effects of hurrying But in the decade since this book first appeared, a new generation of parents has inadvertently stepped up the assault on childhood, misled by the new and comforting rhetoric of childhood competence Now Dr Elkind has thoroughly revised this enormously successful book to debunk the notion of competence tha thas children racing off to early enrichment programs, burdened by the pressure to achieve, and coming home alone to an empty house after school He sees sompetence as a notion meant to rationalize the needs of adults, not to serve the genuine needs of kids, a notion that has fourth graders dieting to fit into designer jeans and children of divorce asked to be the confidants of their troubled parents.In updating this new edition, Dr Elkind takes a detailed and up to the minute look at the world of today s kids in terms of education, movies, television, rock roll, and social trends, to see where the hyrrying occurs and why And as before, he offers parents and teachers insight, advice, and hope for encouraging healthy development while protecting the joy and feedom of childhood.

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    1. I read this book when it was first published and read it again whenthis updated version was published.The point of the book is how we hurry our children into adulthoodand this topic is one that should really be explored more in schoolsand in the media. Children need to be children and this bookshould be a must read for all parents and school districts.

    2. David Elkind, Ph. D describes the Hurried Child as one who is forced to grow up too fast too soon. In American society, which highly values competition and “the earlier the better” mentality, the condition is pandemic, caused by the chronic exploitation of children’s talents and time for purposes other than their direct benefit, by a combination of pressures from parents, commercial media, and school. Though much Hurrying can be defended as an earnest effort by parents to ensure a good fut [...]

    3. I can't say that I am with or against the ideas of this book, the thing that I would like to share is that I beleive that parents should have an inner scale to when and how much should they encaurage their children and when to stop.

    4. "Our new conception of children and youth is epitomized in the metaphor of the Superkid. Like Superman, Superkid has spectacular powers and precocious competence even as an infant. This allows us to think that we can hurry the little powerhouse with impunity . . . The conception of children as competent to deal with, and indeed as benefiting from, everything and anything that life has to offer was an effective rationalization for parents who continue to love their children but who have neither t [...]

    5. Folks, don't put mascara on your twelve-year-old, & don't buy it for her, either. Elkind makes a lot of really strong points here. This book is more geared toward those who are raising children (parent/guardians many, many grandparents raising kids these days!) than toward educators, who follow the school or district's policies regardlessThe last chapter draws a lot of extremely conservative conclusions with which I would not care to be associated, and this is why the final star is denied. H [...]

    6. I read this book for one of my developmental classes and I love it. Every parent or will be parent should read this. It talks about how we as Americans are trying to get our children to grow up too fast and the consequences we as a nation are facing. Over scheduling and the pressure to do better than everyone else are just some of the topics discussed. I didn't think I would enjoy it but once I opened the cover, it was hard to stop.

    7. Please, don't use your children to fulfill your own wishes. Be their leader, their confidant, their best cheer-leader, and the one who loves them deeply from the heart. Teach all you can, challenge them to take responsibility, and realize that they are a unique beautiful person with the possibility of great things wrapped up in fragile paper. They are a gift you are given to care for, not a possession or resource that you can use.

    8. I read this book for my middle childhood class. It was a huge eye opener about how parents are hurrying their children to grow up and expecting to much of them I would reccomend this book for anyone who has young children.

    9. Extremely negative about working mothers and single mothers. The author had some good things to say, but it was hard to get past his clearly biased anecdotal rants against homes that did not resemble the Donna reed show.

    10. Rife with sublimated sexism; ignores issues of race, class, and culture; ageist; severe backlash against gifted acceleration programs; condones censorship; completely ignores issues of asynchronous development.

    11. Gave up on this because it was a bit vivid for my taste. If you can deal with a work that hits close to home, I recommend it to you.UPDATE: Continuing it after newfound motivation.

    12. David Elkind's overall premise is that our society forces children to grow up to fast in many, many different ways. He calls this hurrying. Basically, all hurrying leads to stress, and that stress has many different ways it can affect a child. The bulk of the book discusses how different aspects of family life and culture create these hurried situations and how children respond. Very little time is spend on how to work against hurrying in comparison to the length of the book.One of my biggest pr [...]

    13. In this second installment of Dr. David Elkind's development series, he discusses our society and how it is hurrying our children through adolescence. Through the recent emergence of social media and technology, the hurrying is even quicker than before. Our children know more than past generations can even comprehend because of their exposure to the internet and media. Dr. Elkind dives deep into the implications of having unlimited access to the internet and other factors that contribute to the [...]

    14. Dr Elkind beautifully describes the importance of play and having children be children. He details the importance of how excess stress in a child's life can affect their entire life, and how we as a society hurry children into adulthood in a race against the clockrhaps doing so at their peril. This book mostly outlines the triggers of stress in children, and he touches on Freudian philosophies and Montessori teachings. This is a great read for parents and educators in today's society!

    15. This book was fantastic. It was a real eye opener to the ways our children are being raised in today's world. The. lol was originally written in the 1980s but that doesn't make it outdated, only more important now. It examines the effects of hurrying our children through their life and how it can harm them in the long run. This is a good read for parents and educators alike.

    16. I ended up just skimming this after the first few chapters because I was put off by his discussion of divorced parents and full-time working parents. I do think it's important to balance kids' responsibilities and be aware of what might cause them stress, but this book was just too restrictive.

    17. Read for ED 304. Love it! This is one that I feel is more applicable to parenting than to teaching a high school class, but nonetheless is fantastic.

    18. I agree with letting kids be kids, the main premise of the book. It's definitely challenging as I feel in the minority in my community. My daughters also feel the pressure to grow up too quickly as there is often contrast between what I'm allowing them to do and what their peers are being allowed to do. Since this book addresses the internet, but not the rest of the electronics that are now available, the book really felt dated.p. 21 "Children need time to grow, to learn, and to develop. To trea [...]

    19. I really enjoyed the summaries and explanation of some of the major child psychology--Freud, Erikson, etc. Though what he said about Montessori did not really match the impression I got when I read The Absorbent Mind. Another of my favorites. I'll definitely look up some of his other titles. Though I will put more effort this time into getting the most current edition.p.25 "people who are stressed--like those in ill health are absorbed with themselvese demands on them, their hydra-headed anxieti [...]

    20. i empathize a lot and realize that I can't keep hurring my kids from one thing to the nextdly only to page 152 0f 220 but will re-read the entire book againbest things:pg. 21 "all children have, vis-a-vis adults, special needs- intellectrual, social, and emotional. children do not learn, think or feel in the same way as adults."xii "it seems a new obscenity is permitted on the television screen. Increasingly, nudity and salacious behavior are broadcase in the early evening hours."25) 3 parental [...]

    21. This book was first written in 1981 with several revised editions since. I liked Elkind's book on children's play better. This one at times seems very opinionated, and somewhat judgmental to say the least when he describes women going to work and the impact on childrenOverall, parents have a contract with children and when we hurry them we break that contract and the underlying bond of trust. Hurrying happens by having them watch inappropriate content on TV or asking them to care for themselves [...]

    22. Yet another book on parenting I expected to largely agree with, so in a way this was preaching to the parenting choir. However, I don't think this is one I would turn to or recommend as a favorite. It's essentially a compilation on ideas about child psychology and how 'hurrying' (the author's word for anything in which children of any age are allowed, encouraged, or forced to act in age-inappropriate ways, be they social, mental, physical, emotional) can be damaging to it. The lengthy chapters o [...]

    23. As an early childhood educator,one who owned a preschool,a lover of children,and a mother I feel this treasure of a source is even more relevant today!In this fast paced and terribly violent, less gentle world we need so much more than ever to let children play,grow ,daydream and explore at their own speeds and not that of ego driven adults.Children born in this technology dominant age will likely live to be over one hundred years old. No good reasons exist to push little ones or make them compe [...]

    24. Eh. I thought I would really like this book, but it was pretty dry. I didn't feel like I learned that much, just different ways in which children are hurried. A lot of the reasons kids are hurried is because of both parents working (which is not my case) or because of parents divorcing (which is also not my case). I think the author tried to make the point that it's okay to have two working parents, but he didn't do a very good job of it. It still seemed like all the daycare and different babysi [...]

    25. This book was okay. I agree with his premise wholeheartedly, but the book itself bothered me in its utter lack of editing. There were several typos and subheading problems and at one point he calls Destiny's Child, Destiny Girls. There was a bunch of unprofessional stuff like that that rubbed me the wrong way. I want to know the ideas of a professional who has done his research, but a majority of the book was either unprofessional opinion, or the research of other child development gurus (Piaget [...]

    26. If you're struggling with pressures from yourself, your family, school or society to push your children to do more, be more and think more this book will help you feel good about your decision to slow down and create balance for your child and family and let your kids be kids rather than expecting them to be more than they are perhaps capable (or willing) of doing. He also gives ideas on how to do just that. First written over 20 years ago, it has been updated and is still very relevant today if [...]

    27. I had started work. I felt terrible about that choice but there was no other way we could make it. I had to take some classes to update my teaching certificate. This was one of the books that they suggested to read. I learned that when parents get too busy and stressed, the children become stereotyped instead of individuals. Being aware of this as a possibility for me, I tryed really hard to be a great mommy.There were other great lessons about girls looking for boyfriends because they were look [...]

    28. This book is both discouraging and encouraging for the parent who is trying to slow down the world a bit for their children. Discouraging because it's so difficult to do and it definitely forces you to swim upstream; encouraging because research shows that when you stick to it, it's better for kids' emotions, performance in school, connections to their families, etc. It gets somewhat redundant, but the general idea is to protect childhood for as long as possible - once it's gone, you never get i [...]

    29. Elkind causes the reader to reflect on our parenting and society today. Actually, since this book was first written in the 80s, it scares me to think how much worse it could be today. This book examines how children are being asked to grow up faster while still being in a child's body and brain. We dress our children like adults, worry them with adult problems, thrust them into situations where they have to feed themselves and put themselves to bed, but then we tell them to "act their age." Elki [...]

    30. I only read a few chapters, as the arguments therein are not valid nor statistically correct (based on one man's observations and a few isolated facts from which he draws very narrow, hasty conclusions). He seems to believe that if a child is encouraged to do anything at a young age, he's being pushed. From my point of view, young children can have a great deal of fun learning when they are young. Learning may sometimes be pushed upon kids, but more often learning is just a fun part of a family' [...]

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