The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation

The High Conflict Couple A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace Intimacy and Validation You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship But if you ve tried these without much success you re not alone Many highly reactive couples pairs that are quick to argue anger and

  • Title: The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation
  • Author: Alan E. Fruzzetti Marsha M. Linehan
  • ISBN: 9781572244504
  • Page: 467
  • Format: Paperback
  • You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship But if you ve tried these without much success, you re not alone Many highly reactive couples pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame need than just the run of the mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationshiYou hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship But if you ve tried these without much success, you re not alone Many highly reactive couples pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame need than just the run of the mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it If you re part of a high conflict couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship.The High Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy DBT into skills you can use to tame out of control emotions that flare up in your relationship Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you ll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return You ll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.

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    1. This book is kind of terrible.I feel like it's a book on how to stay in a relationship you should probably get out of. Alternate title: How to make it work when all the signs say you should get out immediately. Like never at any point does this book suggest that maybe you should break up because some people just aren't compatible, or some people are just abusive. It's like ay together all costs.Also, I used to be all about validation until I discovered there's such a thing as too much validation [...]

    2. Amazing book! It teaches very valuable ways to examine your emotions and diffuse arguments before they start. It is DBT based, which I recommend for anyone, and gives great examples in the book. A must read for someone dealing with an angry partner, depression or even just regular arguments in a relationship.

    3. Excellent! Provides a DOABLE approach to defusing high intensity interactions. Practical exercises one can--and should--do on their own. Helps build intimacy and understanding. This is a winner amongst all couples self-help books. No dogma, no airy fairy approach. Written based on clinical research and work with couples.

    4. May add or delete stars after I try the strategies AND depending on outcomes. Maybe it's unfair to rate a book not solely on content and style. Also, reading these books always makes me emotional. So my rating is also tied to my emotional state. But what the heck, I can rate it whatever I want. I can tell though that if I earnestly give the strategies a try they are likely to benefit more than just my relationship and relationships with people in general but may help me find more peace in everyt [...]

    5. i love this book. i adore it. it works for so many things - it's more than a book for people in intimate relationships, it's for people in any and all relationships. if you can apply these skills and techniques to your everyday interactions, you would reduce conflict by at least 95%. it's written so it's accessible to absolutely anyone, including people that know absolutely nothing about psychology. i've given at least five copies of this book away (with the caveat that i'm not saying they suck [...]

    6. The only DBT book for couples. Fruzzetti stays well away from diagnosis or etiology or theorizing at all, and just jumps straight to strategy. Like every other psychodynamic/behavioral/twelve-step model in existence, this one too attests that one partner acting alone can transform a relationship from high-conflict to peaceable; that the way to get validation is to validate. I remain unconvinced; but then that is hardly a surprise.

    7. Seriously a good read for any married couple. The author doesn't mention divorce as a thing and some reviewers hold issue with that but the book delves into how both contribute to misunderstanding and conflict. There are many examples of typical situations which pop up in conflict and how reacting and judgements play in. Very true. So if you have struggles or not the book helps the individual see how they contribute to conflict.

    8. The author's use of DBT skills to help people whose relationships have been hurt by things like Bipolar Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, or other mental disorders that breed distrust, hypersensitivity and over protectiveness in relationships is wonderful. This is a great accompaniment for anyone who suffers from these disorders and needs help repairing and healing their relationships.

    9. super easy to understand and comprehensive. this book tackles pretty much every problem that couples routinely complain about. the book also gives basic practice exercises that align with recommendations/homework assigned by couples therapists.

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