Love in the Time of Algorithms: How Online Dating Shapes Our Relationships

Love in the Time of Algorithms How Online Dating Shapes Our Relationships Love in the Time of Algorithms Slater tells the remarkable story of how online dating is spurring on a new kind of sexual revolution Thanks to the efficiency of the Internet compatible mates are no l

  • Title: Love in the Time of Algorithms: How Online Dating Shapes Our Relationships
  • Author: Dan Slater
  • ISBN: 9781591845317
  • Page: 347
  • Format: Hardcover
  • Love in the Time of Algorithms Slater tells the remarkable story of how online dating is spurring on a new kind of sexual revolution Thanks to the efficiency of the Internet, compatible mates are no longer a scarce commodity Efficiency and control are altering perceptions of what s possible and reconditioning feelings about stability and commitment Full description

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    1. I must have read a review somewhere that praised this, because I can't think of any other reason why I would have put it on my request list. The beginning of this book is interesting, in that it covers the start of computer-generated matches (much earlier than you'd expect) and mentions that the author's parents (now divorced) met this way. But Slater makes it immediately clear that this book will not be about his parents, or about him, and the book suffers for it. By the time I'd hit the middle [...]

    2. If nothing else, this book made me hug my partner a little harder and thank the stars I'm out of the dating pool.

    3. This book was a thoroughly enjoyable read. Perhaps I am biased as I recall reading all the articles on niche-dating sites that came out around 2005, but this book does a tremendous job of exploring the rapidly growing world of online dating. Its a fascinating topic but one that isnt necessarily easy to write about. The book nicely blends stories of individual experiences in online dating, with author's reporting on the business of online dating sites. It presents a fair and balanced view of a st [...]

    4. What a great book. I even read all the footnotes! It talks about the evolution of online dating, the different approaches taken by different sites, and its idiosyncrasies, with lots of data and humor. Some kindle highlights:The online-dating industry may service thirty million of America’s ninety million single adults, but momentum is slowing. - location 118[Plenty of Fish] is thought to attract a certain kind of customer, one who feels at home among grammar-free profiles comprised largely of [...]

    5. This book is called "Love in the Time of Algorithms: What Technology Does to Mating and Dating." I mention this not because I'm about to launch into the world's most boring book report, but because I was a little dissapointed by how little I felt the book really got into this concept. The book is really about the history of online dating, which is kind of interesting in and of itself, but not at all what I was hoping to read. Slater focuses a great deal on the founders of the current big dating [...]

    6. An interesting history of the industry, but I think maybe book was the wrong format. Maybe a series of installments in a periodical would have been better. Not as into the psychological aspects as I personally would have liked, but some decent headway into the anthropology.

    7. Not much in the way of algorithms. More of a brief history on online dating with vignettes interspersed. I had to work at finishing the book. Jumped around quite a bit and didn't feel like there was aver a real rhythm to it.

    8. Meh. Thought there might be more insights. Frankly, nothing about this book was insightful. I don't even know if I really learned that much, which is horrible to realize.

    9. I thought it was funny that some of the reviews of this book are low, because the book wasn’t the sort they thought it would be. The overview gives a description of what it is meant to be. I found the data aspect and theories fascinating. What I did not care for at all were the explicit verbatim strings included in the book. I really could have done without those, and because of them wouldn’t recommend the book. I was so disgusted (albeit, not surprised) at the dating websites for married pe [...]

    10. This is one of those booked that offers a fascinating look at a subject most people haven't really thought about more than superficially. It's my favorite kind of book to stumble across. Like most of these books, ( Bottlemania, that one about orange juice, etc) if it were a hundred pages long it would get 5 stars. The description of how technology has always altered the way people meet and couple up was interesting. I just found myself bored by all the filler that surrounded the interesting stuf [...]

    11. I'm not sure how this got into my Audible list - best guess, it was on sale, and I mistakenly thought it was Christian Rudder's book about the analytics of OKCupid data. But it's not. It is somewhat interesting, but really just boils down to a history and catalog of online dating, past to present, interspersed with some anecdotes. There's very little actual analysis or psychology. So if a reasonably comprehensive catalog of the history of computer dating interests you, then go for this; if not, [...]

    12. written pre-tinder in 2013; quite a nice look into what the world of online dating consisted pre-swiping. found that he focused more on what the sites were rather than diving into the psychology of things which is what I thought the book would be about.

    13. Love In The Time of Algorithms is the worst kind of nonfiction book – one that has no strongly discernible theme, thesis or consistent form – author Dan Slater has a blast flopping between first-person account, seemingly fiction-like narrative and even some interviews.However, Slater manages to pass the Chris Dixon test for nonfiction and provide value beyond what already exists on (or at least he packages it in a way that would have been very difficult to find otherwise). For that alone, h [...]

    14. There's some background information in this book that is entertaining, but, for my tastes, this book went way off course into the history of online dating and didn't provide enough discussion of the present. There is a lot of detail here about how Match, Plenty Of Fish, eHarmony, and OKCupid were formed, with elaborate histories tracing them back pre-inception, in some cases. Plenty Of Fish had its genesis when the founder was hired to work for LavaLife and found it to be incredibly boring work [...]

    15. This book started out a little slow for me, as it spent a lot of time talking about "primitive" computer dating, which started as far back as the 1960s when a program would match up college students in Massachusetts. My interest picked up as it entered the realm of Internet dating as I know it -- and as I experienced. It also goes into the realm of forms of online dating that are still somewhat stigmatized, such as "mail-order brides" (dating sites that focus on matching women in the developing [...]

    16. I heard about, Love in the Time of Algorithms, by Dan Slater, on wnyc a few weeks ago. I thought that the internet dating scene had changed and that interested me. It has become a grand meeting place for people and does not have the stigma that it used to have even as recently as 15 years ago. I know several people who have meet their spouse on the internet and a couple more who are in long(ish) term relations with internet dating sites to thank. That said, I was interested in the technical poin [...]

    17. The author sets out to show how online dating is changing society and our relationship to dating in profound ways. He traces the history of online dating from the 60s, through the classified, to its present million $ format. Unlike our parents and grandparents who were dependent on a restricted circle of friends and family to introduce them, we now have access to an almost limitless pool of partners. Potentially there is a partner for all of us, whether we are young, old, straight, gay or marrie [...]

    18. I couldn't get through this book fast enough. The only reason I completed it was so that I could fairly give it one star. I agree with some of the other reviewers who assert that the author seemed to jump around and focused on the various companies and their leaders (I too lost track of who was who with what company and what sort of ivy league or non-ivy league institution they had graduated from).Very few of the people Slater describes--whether an online dater or a online dating company CEO--co [...]

    19. Is love really a byproduct of supply and demand? Dan Slater thinks so.In his eye-opening book, Slater asserts that love and commitment come from a scarcity of people. Once you convince people that they can date anyone (and almost anything), they have no reason to commit because there will "always be something better out there."That's one of the attitudes that online dating has developed in people. Statistics say that 1 in 4 relationships begin online, but how long are those relationships lasting [...]

    20. I, too, was expecting something that covered more about relationships. It was interesting to get a male perspective on online dating. After reading about two-thirds of the book, I decided to try visiting the sites that he suggested, I found many of them to be lacking. Online dating isn't much different from dating in the real world: I still received poorly-phrased initial contact phrases from the majority of men; men were confused by my status (they think that being available indicates interest [...]

    21. I've been participating in the world of online dating recently. Subconsciously, I think I picked this one up as a self-help book, but it clearly isn't. I did learn valuable information, however, about the various websites and strategies out there. Included was a sort of history of dating, from the 20th to the 21st century. How the automobile and contraception changed things, etc. There is also a long chapter dedicated to the mail order bide phenomenon, and Colombian "premium foreign dating" or w [...]

    22. I thoroughly enjoyed Love in the Time of Algorithms. It’s very much an engaging story which can be difficult to pull off on when you’re writing about the evolution of a technology. Since the story has its roots in relationships which are essentially the story of two people, the history of online dating becomes the story of human nature and the machine. But by machine, I mean the driving force to find new ways to profit. I don’t actually mean the computer because even though the book is abo [...]

    23. The author does a fair job of tracing the history of online personals. I would have liked to have seen more about the advent of online personals, before the days of egs and algorithms. There was a strong user base of free online personals, such Yahoo Personals, Webpersonals and American Singles that preceded match and eHaromony. Those folks that used the early, text based form of online personals were mostly male (yeah for us females), engineers and academics: those people who had early access t [...]

    24. What fun. all the creators of online dating sites, never used them for love. there are so many kinky sights-- "guys who like to watch poodles have sex. com" Perhaps central-- "love is not rare; sex is easy" due to online sites Remakes our world. Trust and ongoing engagement (say i, Slater?)much harder, the creation of hard work and attention to others. if love is not hard, the whole genre of true love novels is garbage, in an additional way besides the genre's craft. "Love 2.0" points out that p [...]

    25. I received this book from the First Reads giveaway program. Thank you author/publisher for the opportunity to read and review this book.A Million First Dates: Solving the Puzzle of Online Dating by Dan Slater is a comprehensive guide discussing the history of online dating. The book discusses how the first "matches" were generated years ago to discussing the current online sites such as match pof okcupid eharmony and those people involved in developing these sites.Great book for those looking t [...]

    26. Here is a thorough review of the influence of technology in many personal relationships. Apparently the internet has brought as much change as the automobile. I have lived through some exciting times, and I'm happy that I met my wife/soulmate/lover/life partner in college. We were pursuing educational and lifestyle interests as well as looking for a match in a place of common interests. Forty years later, youngsters work out their interests and network on the Web. Slater covers the situation wel [...]

    27. My favorite line of this book said something to the effect of, "If you look like Jake Gyllenhaal you aren't dating online". This book gives a basic overview of the history of online dating as well as informing us about recent scientific information surrounding human attraction. While there are several really valuable dating websites (one for people with specific medical issues that makes it hard to date) the take away for me was that eliminating the biological and evolutionary factors that bring [...]

    28. Very interesting book about dating and technology. Slater examines the online dating industry and how relationships are changing because of new technologies. He profiles the founders of online dating sites such as Match, eHarmony, OkCupid and describes the differences between various sites. Slater also profiles users of online dating sites (including niche sites and men who use international matchmaking sites).I really enjoy reading interesting social science books and especially liked the insig [...]

    29. A good companion book to Amy Webb's Data: A love story. It basically looks at the people behind the companies behind the websites; their ideas and insights, their rivalries, and their strengths and weaknesses, their past and perhaps a bit of their future.If you're looking for a guidebook on how to make online dating work for you, Though I read them in opposite order, read this one first, then Data, and take notes as you read. Between the two, you might be able to piece together a strategy that w [...]

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